Harmonizing Feminine and Masculine Energies
As a former restaurant GM and now a women's executive coach, I've come to understand the fluid shifts between masculine and feminine energies in the fast-paced world of hospitality. I've learned that balance is not a one-time achievement but rather an ongoing dance. To be clear: this isn't about gender; it's about expression. We all possess a mix of both energies, and finding the right balance is key to our success and well-being.
I've found myself oscillating between these energies, sometimes leaning heavily into my masculine traits, despite my natural core being feminine. Why does this happen? Well, one reason is survival mode. When faced with challenges and having to be in charge of a room full of employees and guests, many of us instinctively shift towards a more logical, action-oriented mindset. We buckle down, make decisions, and get things done. But operating in this mode for too long can lead to burnout and imbalance.
Moreover, the workplace culture, especially in high-pressure environments like hospitality management, often favors leaders with predominantly masculine characteristics – those who are focused, decisive, and efficient. And while these traits undoubtedly have their place, there's an opportunity to embrace a more balanced approach by integrating feminine energies into our leadership styles.
So, how can we infuse our workplaces with a beautiful amalgamation of masculine and feminine energies? Here are a few places to look:
For those of us who tend to lean more towards our masculine traits, it's essential to slow down, show compassion, and create space for creativity and collaboration. In a world that values toughness and resilience, vulnerability is often seen as a weakness. But in reality, it's a superpower. As leaders in hospitality, showing compassion, empathy, and authenticity fosters trust and connection within your team, leading to higher morale and better outcomes.
On the other hand, if you lean more towards your feminine traits, don't be afraid to set goals, seek structure, and take decisive action when needed. Check in with yourself regularly, listen to your intuition, and act on it. Declare and honor your boundaries.
So, to all my fellow hospitality (or other) queens, as you navigate your role in this dynamic industry, remember to honor both your masculine and feminine energies. Embrace balance, cultivate empathy, and lead with authenticity. Above all, remember that by expressing yourself fully you can create a workplace where innovation thrives, teams flourish, and success is measured not just by the bottom line, but by the depth of connection and collaboration.
